Hercules. The ESFJ.
Seriously, Disney’s Hercules is the best example of an ESFJ. Let me explain.
-ESFJs dream of fitting in. They dream of that far off place, with a great, warm welcome. They love feeling like they belong, like they have a purpose in society that is well-defined and allows them to help other people. They will go to desperate measures to find this place for themselves.
-They will help people, no matter what the cost. They are the heroes of everyone’s stories. If you ask an ESFJ to do something for you, they’re going to have a really, really hard time saying no to you
unless they hate your guts.
-They are suckers for love. Which is both good and bad. The ESFJ is an amazing lover. Society’s idea of a “perfect partner” is probably the ESFJ; a warm, selfless caregiver who wills stop at nothing to satisfy their partner.
-However, while this may be true, the ESFJ is incredibly susceptible to being used or feeling unappreciated in the relationship. They may allow others to bully them, believing that their partner is more valuable or perhaps a better person than they are.
-Ultimately, if the ESFJ keeps going along this path, they may end up breaking themselves apart to keep the relationship together. They may lose a part of themselves along the way, and it can be incredibly hard for them to find their way back to being “themselves.” Fe is not Fi…
-However, ESFJs are, well, charming. They’re the life of the party and can typically feel healed and refreshed after spending a lot of quality time with lots of good friends. Their past troubles with relationships (not excluding non-romantic ones!) may leave them with trust issues, but it is always people that help to cheer them back up and get them on the right path.
Disney doesn’t really touch much on the negative sides of the ESFJ, but it’s what can be expected: they can be dramatic, petty, nosy, and can be seen as annoying by many because they try to “save you” by meddling with your relationships and activities. Their end goal is to be as helpful as possible, buuut if they lose sight of this, they may become overbearing.
A lot of MBTI enthusiasts are not ESFJs…and vice versa. It can be difficult to deal with an ESFJ when you’re, say, an INTP. But just remember: all it takes is a smile and some “how are you?”’s to turn your ESFJ’s frown upside down. Seriously. Just. Smile. At. Them. They’ll do the rest of the talking, guaranteed.