cant wait till fucking high school’s over
i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private
please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here
please, kiddos, stay safe
additionally, for my young, non-adult followers,
- depression memes about wanting to die aren’t a healthy coping mechanism and can lead to worsening symptoms of your own mental health if overindulged in
- you are not garbage. or trash. i know these terms are popular on here, but you shouldn’t be calling yourself that. you have everything you need inside of you to become your best self, even if it’s hard to see that
- seriously, really don’t trust adults who want to date you. don’t trust adults who call you hot, flirt with you, ask you sexual questions, or ask you for nudes. (that last one is VERY illegal, also, please get help from a trusted non-creepy adult if this happens to you)
- the opinions of complete strangers who aren’t interacting with you typically aren’t worth it. move on, use the block button. it’s not worth engaging with people who are going to make you feel awful or unsafe
- take breaks from tumblr if it’s getting really stressful for you. talk to friends if you’ve got em, play a videogame or do whatever it is that can take your mind off the massive amounts of Hell on this website
- recovery is good. it’s really, really good. if you’re having mental health issues, please seek out help if you can, or ask a trusted adult or friend for guidance. you are not alone. don’t let this website make you feel like you are
I started tumblr in 6th grade. Im now 20. I can back up ALL of this and wish I’d known this when i was younger bc i did myself a lot of harm online in my teen years.
Please, its not just annoying paranoid adults being overprotective or “not getting it.” please take this advice and be safe.
Above all, develop and enforce your personal boundaries and trust your gut, always. Never letting anyone (including yourself) cross them or talk you into things youre even a little uncomfortable with, or convince you your gut feeling is wrong. Thats about the best one rule you can follow even as an adult to be safe. If you won’t follow any others, just follow that one, please.
Ngl I’m 35 and I found reading this a useful reminder. Even as adults we need to remember to moderate our time spent engaging in intense discourse, and remember to pick our battles. I’ve had some of my worst moments because I was having horrible RSD responses to the words of random strangers, many of whom were probably young enough to be my children.
Just because they’re words doesn’t mean they can’t hurt, even if you are old enough that you think you should “know better.” Take a break, friends.
Hi! I’d like to use a picture that someone else used to help bring some more attention to this very important post, hope that’s okay!
Please share this post! It’s really really important! More so to the younger users, but in general for all of us as well! 💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝
(the pic i used isn’t mine btw, sorry i don’t know where i got it from)
I have noticed that calling yourself stupid or dumb has replaced the trash/garbage meme…. seriously, don’t do that. You are making things harder on yourself and legitimizing others not taking you seriously.
hey just so you know “love hurts” means thinks like
unrequited love is painful to process and get over,
it sucks when you love someone but they’re far away so you can’t be with them right now,
sometimes we do something selfish out of love that we have to fix and work to do better next time,
sometimes the people we love aren’t kind to themselves, and it hurts to see,
it’s painful to love someone deeply and see them go through something hard that you can’t fix for them,
but “love hurts” does Not mean that being loved should be painful, scary, unpleasant, manipulative, or guilt-ridden. If someone you love hurts you again and again, even if they think they love you, they don’t. Not enough to be gentle, to be kind. You’ve gotta try to believe you deserve better. Love doesn’t “hurt” like that.
I’m astounded by the privilege of people who disdainfully look at me at say, “I don’t like relying on pills.”
Yeah, well, me either but I don’t have the luxury of being able to survive without them.
My dad does that, despite needing an asthma spray his whole life. So if meds aren’t it’s pillform it’s all good? Now he has to take like 3 meds since his stroke and still has the audacity to say that.
If you wanna wear a swim suit with your ostomy bag do it
If you wanna wear a flower crown on your bald head do it
If you wanna wear short skirts when you have cellulite or braces do it
If you wanna wear tank tops or short sleeves while having scars do it
If you wanna paint your wheelchair hot pink do it
If you wanna wear heels with your cane do it
If you wanna go topless with surgery scars do it
If you wanna show off your body, with or without hair on it do it.
If you wanna dye your hair a hundred different colors do it
If you carry your meds on you and take them in public do it
Its your body. Dont let anyone or anything take that away from you. Be unashamed. Love yourself.
Feel free to add.
I once whatched an episode of supernanny (we had a Brazilian version) and the dad was PISSED at supernanny for saying he couldn’t hit his kids because “I was raised like that and turned out just fine” and she dead ass looked him in the eye and asked “do you resent your parents? Do you love and trust them? Did you always tell them the truth and counted on them, or did you hide things from them in fear of their response?” and when he was like”… well, that’s just how parents and kids go” she was like “no, it isn’t. Do you really want your children to live like that? Do you want your kids to respect you or do you want them to trust you?” and that guy B R O K E
parents: my kids disrespect me all the time and don’t listen to a single thing I say and I’ve tried everything to fix it but none of it has worked, you’re our last hope supernanny
supernanny: do you ever spend time with them, listen to them, talk to them or show interest in their lives at all?
parents: no why would I do that
parents: my children are spawns of satan, every day i wake up to them screaming and running around the home where they’re always knocking shit over and causing a mess. they are so rude and they never calm down and we’re on our last legs because we want a divorce because of them
supernanny: do they have any toys?
parents: do they have any what
watching supernanny is so surreal because it’s like my cat from hell where 99.9% of the time it’s always the parents fucking up and never the kids as they’re just abiding by how they’ve been raised