you’ve heard of sugar, spice and everything nice
now get ready for…
Fe - an insatiable thirst for attention
Se - party rock
Ne - an overwhelming surplus of diggity
Te - sadism
Fi - self-loathing
Si - that summertime, fall, wintertime, springtime sadness
Ni - the inevitable and irreversible heat death of the universe
Ti - nihilism
Fe - codependent relationships
Se - the aesthetic
Ne - a fair amount of diggity
Te - strategy games
Fi - tarot cards
Si - terms and conditions
Ni - vision boards
Ti - constantly hurting people’s feelings
Fe - social manipulation
Se - the finer things in life
Ne - hardly any diggity
Te - bitchin
Fi - tragic backstory
Si - obscure obsessions
Ni - freakishly accurate hunches
Ti - some common sense
Fe - moral flexibility
Se - unexplained bruises
Ne - no diggity
Te - angry crying
Fi - corporate slavory
Si - chaos
Ni - dystopian nightmares
Ti - drama
Being in a relationship with an INFP is probably going to be one of the most rewarding things you have ever done in your life, so, congratulations! They are quirky, romantic, shy, bubbly little introverts who have a capacity for love that is so large, it could very easily be considered a fault. However, although being in a relationship with an INFP will certainly reap many benefits (you’re about to get a book of poetry dedicated to you, songs written about you, little gifts, “I love you” texts…), keep in mind that INFPs are drained very easily. They exert so much effort into loving their significant other, that when they suspect the same amount of effort isn’t being reciprocated, an INFP can easily begin to doubt whether or not there are still mutual feelings. Luckily for you, as one with many INFP friends, I am going to tell you how to better understand, appreciate, and love the INFP in your life.
1. They love space, but you’re the exception.
It’s true, INFPs are still introverts, despite coming across as extroverts. Normally, on any given day, most INFPs aren’t stimulated (at least, not as much as their sensor-counterparts, ISFPs) by physical touch. Lord knows they would die before they initiated it. However, just because they don’t initiate or respond to a brush against the arm or back, a kiss on the cheek, or a hug in a romantic, swept-off-their-feet sort of way, doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy it. On the contrary, INFPs are passionately affectionate creatures. Unfortunately, they are still also shy. They are constantly worried about their efforts going exactly the way they didn’t plan, so when it comes to romance, it can be safer for them to keep their hands to themselves. Go the extra mile. Put your arm around them. Hold their hand. Brush the hair out of their face. If you’re feeling extra romantic, kiss them. Once you break the initiation barrier, it will be worth it.
2. “Do you really mean it?”
A question that doesn’t escape an INFP’s lips often enough, yet is always in the back of their mind. Due to their dominant introverted feeling, remaining true to their character and their values is non-negotiable. However, it also makes them apt to know that not everyone is as honest as they are. INFPs might question, doubt, or even accuse your intentions of being false, or ill-placed. Be patient with your INFP, and remind them often that you do mean well. Words are special, yes, but they won’t believe unless you prove it with your actions. Thankfully, it really doesn’t take much. Even asking them how they’re feeling, or bringing up a story that they shared long ago to remind them that you care, and that you are attentive to their needs and stories. You may notice that they ask often how your day was. That is because they genuinely care for your deepest feelings. They would hold your heart in the palms of their hands and guard it through flood and fire. They have seen the darkness in the world, and have probably succumbed to it at some point in their life. Keeping up with them and making sure that they’re taking care of themselves is one way you can show them that you really do appreciate and love them.
3. Their spontaneous, impulsive nature is the only predictable thing about them.
Don’t allow your INFP to be apologetic for the quirky things about them. Their auxiliary function, extroverted intuition, is constantly spouting strange ideas, notions, and stories that all somehow connect with what is on their heart (Fi). If one moment, you two are discussing politics and philosophy, and the next minute your INFP expresses a sudden interest in entering a Christmas light competition, don’t take it personally. They most likely weren’t bored of the topic at hand. They don’t merely have one train of thought, they have twenty-seven, and it’s up to you to keep them grounded without judging them. Let them be random. Let them be spontaneous. Let them go on tangents and rabbit trail onto something totally unrelated. If they allow that side of themselves to open up around you (because, believe it or not, most INFPs I’ve met are actually pretty insecure about their childlike spirits), you’re very special to them. Don’t take that for granted or brush it off like they’ll do that for anyone.
4. Flirting is fun, yes, but INFPs need and crave so much more.
Don’t get me wrong, an INFP who willingly flirts is the world’s most secret, guarded treasure. However, it gets old. It’s tiring. INFPs want more out of a relationship than the physical. They crave connection and genuineness. Ask about their poetry, or music, or whatever hobby it is that they enjoy. Ask about their feelings. Talk about the universe, talk about where you see yourself in ten years, twenty years, sixty years. Throw something flirty in there every now and then, but show your INFP that you love their soul. You won’t regret it. I promise.
There you go! Four essential tips for keeping your relationship with an INFP healthy. Have fun, be genuine, and remember that nobody is perfect. This isn’t exclusive to INFPs. You can apply those tips to any relationship with any type, but according to my INFP friends, these four are the most important and heartwarming.
To probably all of INFP’s friends, it’s obvious they like someone. Maybe it’s the way they slip Crush into conversations, or maybe it’s the way their face lights up when someone else mentions their name. Although every INFP is different, there are a few things that most of us do that are definite signs you are the fancy of our eye.
1. Talking. Talking. Talking.
As an INFP myself, I always find excuses to talk to you. Sometimes, I “accidentally” send you a message that was intended for someone else. Other times, I walk up and randomly ask you your middle name despite never having properly introduced myself before. I want to get inside your brain. I don’t just want to get my feet wet. I want to completely submerge myself into your thought processes, your feelings, and how your beautiful mind works.
2. So much staring. So much.
I can’t help it. INFPs can’t help it. We’re not very sensory people, so when we see something that we like, it’s hard not to stare. It almost feels like a shock–something brand new that I’ve never felt before. Even if we don’t talk to you a lot, we’re always watching.
3. Questions about you. And then answering about me.
Asking a lot of questions lets me do two things. One, I can see your answers. Two, I can see how you react to certain questions varying in degrees of weirdness. I can see how much of me you can handle. Questions ranging from, “What’s your favorite color?” to, “Wouldn’t it be so beautifully tragic if the sun and moon actually were lovers?” We just kind of spout whatever is on our mind. Taking this a step further, when we answer those questions, we’re slowly opening our guarded hearts for you. We’re trying to let you inside, and also trying to see if that’s something that excites you.
4. SHARING POETRY/SONGS/WRITINGS
I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. IF AN INFP SHARES SOME OF THEIR POETRY (IF IT’S LOVE POETRY, JUST MARRY THEM)… THEY LIKE YOU. IT’S SO OBVIOUS. HUMOR THEM A LITTLE AND COMPLIMENT HOW AMAZING THEY ARE AT WRITING, AND THEN WRITE THEM A POEM.
5. Acting a little clingy, but never in person. Only via text.
The whole realm of online is a strange place. INFPs have carefully maneuvered their way through it. If they can’t see you every day (at school or something), chances are they just really, really, really want to talk to you. So they spam your phone with a bunch of very random statements and then regret it later because how dare they make it so obvious that they like you.
i love figuring out my friends’ personality types. i love typing them, and then going and reading up on the quirks, weaknesses and strengths of their types. i love doing research, so i’ll heavily research their type, and then research relationships between them and infps and then make them take the enneagram AND OMG I JUST MBTI AND UNDERSTANDING PEOPLE AND HOW THEIR MINDS WORK AND THEIR LOVE LANGUAGES AND HOW THEY PROCESS AND SEE THE WORLD AND HOW THEY FEEL MOST LOVED AND HOW I CAN CHANGE THE WAY I RELATE TO THEM AND JUST EVERYTHING OK BYE
how would a infp+entj pairing go tho? just curious about your opinion
Honestly, the only way I can see that working is because they are both intuitives. But, ENTJs use Ni and INFPs use Ne. When an ENTJ might suggest a place to eat, or an activity, an INFP would sometimes undoubtedly have that unexplainable feeling as to why that’s a bad idea. The ENTJ’s Te/Ni pairing needs fact, they need evidence and it has to be explained well. INFPs just don’t think that way, and they don’t live that way. I just think that there would be a lot of conflicting resolutions. Again, as always, it comes down to commitment, not type.
As a fellow INFP ( not that that matters) i was wondering: Before I found Mbti I found astrology, and I still firmly believe in it (I found out about MBTI yesterday soo...). Do you think that astrology and MBTI go hand in hand? Do you believe in astrology? I'd like to know😊
No, I don’t believe in astrology at all. I’m supposedly a Scorpio. They’re supposed to be this hard-as-ice monster with no feelings who has a mouth of the devil and no one can hurt. I’m an INFP. Total opposite. I think it’s silly to think that someone’s personality has to do with stars that are billions and billions of miles away. There’s just no science or hard fact to it like there is with MBTI. MBTI is psychology, horoscope/zodiac is just… well… nonsense.
ESTJ: go to the store at like 1am to pick up paint because they noticed a spot that the painter missed and it’s driving them craaaaaazzzyyyy
ENTJ: at Target they see a set of perfectly aligned, industrial looking clocks that they absolutely must have because the clocks just look presidential
ESTP: eat a battery as a kid
ENTP climb up the window using a rapunzel wig just to see if the theory is actually plausible
ISTJ: spend all day learning how to correctly paint walls, then not finding the energy to actually paint walls
INTJ: design a fandom poster then think of ways they could sell them for a living
ISTP: try going one full day without cussing………fails in 10 minutes
INTP: “i think i’ll go to bed tonight… shake things up for a change”
ESFJ: make a grilled cheese sandwich for someone, then realizes they are hungry and so they eat that grilled cheese sandwich God forgive them
ENFJ: leave their purse at the public food court, then when they go back to retrieve it, they just start engaging in conversation with the police officer
ESFP: goes on a “pretty-pen hunt” throughout their house to find all the pretty pens so they can hoard them and kill anyone who tries to steal them
ENFP: tries to cook up a mock Chick-fil-a chicken sandwich recipe but ends up giving themselves food poisoning, God rest their soul
ISFJ: makes a pot of coffee, fixes a cup of coffee, doesn’t finish that cup of coffee, leaves it somewhere in the house, repeats this process 5x a day
INFJ: “i’m going to read this book outside under that tree” *sees bee* “nope” *goes back inside*
INFP: writes incredible 30 page fanfics but is too shy to post them anywhere
ISFP: wants to be a vet or something but can’t even be in the same house as a beetle or a spider
I’ve let this go on for too long.
INFPs did not invent sadness, nor do they cry all the time. INFPs are bodies of hope in spite of the sadness around them. I like to think that they invented hope and optimism, because despite the horrible things they know of ourselves, they believe the best about others.
Maybe INFPs are fragile for good reason. Don’t you think that a ripe apple tree in the middle of a rotten orchard would tend to be a little distraught sometimes? The world is an ugly place. Guess what? Despite all of this, the stereotyped cry-baby of the MBTI would go there to the end for people they’ve never met.
INFPs did not invent sadness. They invented hope.
- “stay over”
- “you might like this”
- “i was just in the neighborhood”
- “i want you to be happy”
- “you look like you could use a hug”
- “i’ll wait”
- “you didn’t have to ask”
- “i’ll meet you halfway”
- “i’ll be here when you’re ready”
- “i saw this and thought of you”
- “i’m worried about you”
- “i like your laugh”
- “don’t worry about me”
- “i’m proud of you”
- “that’s okay, i bought two”
- “you should take a break - you work too hard”
- “take my jacket, it’s cold outside”
- “you’re important too”
- “i made this for you”
- “we can share”
- “i don’t mind”
- “it reminded me of you”
- “i made your favourite”
- “i want you to have this”
- “listen to this song - it reminded me of you”
- “i’m happy you’re here”
- “i saved you a piece”
- “well what do you want to do?”
- “i picked these for you”
- “stay there, i’ll come get you”
- “you dont have to say anything”
- “i’ll help you study”
- “i noticed”
- “do you need any help with that?”
- “call me if you need anything”
- “it’s no bother”
- “i’ll do it for you”
- “i really want your opinion on something”
- “you can have the last slice”
- “what do you want to watch?”
- “do you want to come too?”
- “is there anything i can do to help?”
- “it’s okay, i couldn’t sleep anyways”
- “take mine”
- “i appreciate what you do for me”
- “you just made my day”
- “we’ll figure it out”
Crying a river
this is so beautiful i can’t
bc I’ve been wondering if there’s any correlation… even if there isn’t I’m interested anyway!!
ESTJ - ENTJ mom
ISFP - INFJ mother
INFP - ESFJ mom
ESTP - ISFJ mom
ISTJ - ISTJ mom
INFP - ISFJ mom and it is glorious and detrimental at the same time. Si Fe + Fi Ne is not an ideal combo.
Now that your INTP Starter Kit has been successfully shipped (we apologize for the excessive shipping rates, your INTP can carry extreme emotional baggage if not handled properly), this instruction packet will guide you through the simple steps on how to assemble your INTP. Let’s do this!
Step One: After removing the harsh wit, werewolf blood, and kitten hair from the package, place them in the bowl with the Devil’s Chocolate Cake mix and stir until thoroughly combined.
Step Two: Take your mixture and add precisely 10 ounces of any carbonated beverage of your choice. This will ensure that your INTP is well saturated with bubbly and toxic humor, but to inhale it through the nose will make you choke, cough, and possibly die. Please do not inhale the mixture.
Step Three: Let the mixture rise in a room temperature place. A room too hot will make the mixture too warm (which could result in a grumpy INTP), a room too cold will result in a chill, also known as the Burrito Effect, which will permanently make your INTP wrap themselves in a blanket burrito and never leave that position. Ever.
Step Four: Once your INTP is fully risen (it will take about seventeen years), sprinkle the top with wi-fi. They love wi-fi, and will only bloom properly if given the w-fi. Don’t skip the wi-fi.
Step Five: Stand back and watch your INTP rise from the the batter. If you have prepared it correctly, the INTP will come out pale and usually ginger. If this is not the desired INTP, go back to Step Two and only add seven ounces of carbonated beverage, which will probably result in a brown-haired INTP.
Enjoy your INTP, and don’t forget to emotionally arm yourself for the witty comebacks and excessive sarcastic humor that they might go a little too far with.