Hello, Em! I was wondering if you could help me find my type. I’m still in college, so most of this will revolve around exams and such. I’m not really sure of my type other than the fact that I’m an introvert, I tend to become drained during social situations and prefer to avoid high-stimulus environments. Two of my main hobbies are sewing and running. I took up running for my dad, mostly. I hated the idea of us having nothing in common and had tried to pick some of his other interests, (1/5)
but I couldn’t force interest in them. Of course, now that I am running,
I always feel like a huge disappointment when I try to keep up. I
started sewing when I was ten and became hooked by the idea that I could
make whatever I wanted, although I typically follow the patterns to the
letter. I think my favorite part of sewing is knowing that I made
something by myself. I don’t think of myself as a very creative person
but having the knowledge that I’m able to make something, (2/5)
even if it’s not all that great, means a lot to me. I tend to be
extremely hard on myself when it comes to my homework. For example, I
recently got a much higher score than I had anticipated on an exam. I
had spent a disproportionate amount of time studying for this exam, went
over all of the practice problems multiple times, read and reread my
notes, and still only expected a C. My score ended up being the highest
in the class, but as soon as I got the exam back, all I could think of
everything I did wrong. Also, I tend to be easily swayed by
others’ opinions. I tried for years to pick hobbies I could share with
others. I have noticed I have a habit of keeping my opinions to myself
for as long as possible even about the smallest things, just to avoid
upsetting others or becoming a target for teasing. I guess there is a
positive side to this, though. I’m also easily encouraged. I remember
the first time I got positive feedback on an essay, I was elated and
finished the semester with an A in my least favorite subject, all
because I was desperate not to let my teacher down. Most people tell me
that I’m detailed, but I don’t always feel that way. When it comes to
term papers, I put it off until about a month or so in advance and then
will outline and draft, mostly because I struggle with losing steam when
I can’t see my progress. Otherwise I become discouraged and feel like
I’m running in circles. I hope that this is enough to go on, Thanks!
All of this sounds very much like an ISFJ: You like to see your work in the real world, you tend to follow directions, and you strongly value the opinions of others and do not want to rock the boat with conflicting opinions.
For a little unsolicited advice that you are welcome to ignore, because, well, unsolicted: I find, as an Si-dom, that I also tend at times to fixate on what I did wrong. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing as long as you realize what you’re doing and cut yourself some slack for that past mistake. High Si users rely heavily on understanding what didn’t go well last time to improve things for next time, so as long as the focus is “I got this wrong, let’s learn from that” and not “I got this wrong, let’s dwell on it” it’s probably helping you. I actually found I study best by taking practice tests or doing old problem sets, seeing what I did wrong, and reviewing that specific area more carefully.
Possibly related and still more unsolicited advice I also found that I just don’t like to outline papers and I don’t do it for similar reasons - I feel like I’m not making progress. While I was a STEM major and had to write few papers, when I did, I ended up just writing a really rough draft to start without an outline, getting a sense of the outline from that, and then writing the paper.