You: there are two types of people in this wo—
Me, a slave to Myers-Briggs: actually there are 16
The types as Olympic sports?
Olympic Weightlifting, to let out some frustration at everyone’s stupidity: ENTJ, INTJ
Boxing, to burn some restless energy and get to beat someone up while they’re at it: ESTP, ISTP
Tug-of-War, because winning is a Fun Team Effort: ESFJ, ESFP, ENFJ, ENFP
Polo, because there’s horses and oh my God!! Cute!!: ISFJ, ISFP, INFP
Synchronized swimming, for the perfect structure and precision: ISTJ
Fencing, for the strategy involved: ENTP, INTP, ESTJ
Archery, so they get to be alone and validated for their perfectionism: INFJ
Hi! I was wondering what type of texting/communicating style an INTJ has? Are they the ones to leave people on read, mentally reply but forget to actually reply, etc? I'm the type to read messages when I know I can reply thoroughly at the time, so it irks me when some friends reply too late to the point where I don't feel like continuing the conversation, or they'll be on other social media posting or liking but haven't replied back yet. Is that an INTJ annoyance or is it just me?
I totally agree – I respond whenever I come up with a good reply, whether that’s .2 seconds after receiving the text … or 2 months. Oops.
I think this is a frequent INTJ thing. We like to feel #competent and it can be a #problem
When an INTJ says they're "busy," what are the chances they are actually busy? Or are they just not interested in spending time with me anymore?
They might be busy trying to stop their own brain from eating itself as a result of overthinking, keep bugging them until their feelings are more obvious
The types as alternative songs
Listen to your type’s song and reblog if you…
1. liked it
2. have a better song
3. think I’m an idiot and want to flame me
Spotify playlist with all the songs here!
ENTJ: Love is a Laserquest by Arctic Monkeys
Why: The crooning of Alex Turner circa 2011 asking you if you still think love is a laserquest might just brainwash you into viewing relationships a little less intensely … only kidding, guys. Seriously, this is a beautiful and layered song with a light, teasing vibe.
INTJ: Love is Lame by The High Curbs
Why: Bitter, vulgar, and clever. Like us! This is a well-paced song with solid guitar and blunt lyrics from a local band that I found a while back. The clear vocals are awesome for INTJs who especially like to listen to the lyrics.
ENTP: That’s Where You’re Wrong by Arctic Monkeys
Why: Title of this song = catchphrase of 90% of ENTPs. Don’t @ me, you know it’s true. Expect an alternative song with a smooth beat, soft vocals, and the most creative lyrics – almost creative as what you dorks come up with in our daily debates.
INTP: The Scientist by Coldplay
Why: Do we really need an explanation for this one? Gorgeous, simple piano will be especially appreciated by our INTP musicians.
ENFJ: Best Friend by Rex Orange County
Why: Being peoples’ best friends is a favorite pastime of ENFJs. This song deserves a spot on their internal soundtrack as they accumulate more people that love them. The uplifting, cheerful tune and happy-yet-tongue-in-cheek lyrics are so representative of ENFJs’ attitudes.
INFJ: Come and Be Alone with Me by The Jungle Giants
Why: I’m pretty sure every INFJ in my life has
said whined this to me at least once. I just discovered The Jungle Giants recently and I’ve shoved them down the throat of every INFJ I know – the indie-esque sound, solid beats, and sheer catchiness of their music are so interesting and unique. And slightly weird. Like you guys.
ENFP: Talk Too Much by COIN
Why: Yes, you talk too much; yes, I love you anyway. Fast-paced, fun, intense, and solidly pop-y. COIN makes the kind of music you want to dance naked to. Not that ENFPs usually dance with a lot of clothes on, anyway.
INFP: I Love You So by The Walters
Why: This is the kind of song that makes you want to smile at the person next to you on public transit. Gentle and classic guitar, slow beat with beautiful, mellow vocals, and ultra-INFP lyrics – “I just need someone in my life to give it structure” and “You’re saying I’m the one but it’s your actions that speak louder.” Check it out, guys.
ESTJ: Change Your Mind by The Killers
Why: This is such a classic alternative song. ESTJs might grudgingly enjoy the nod to struggling with emotional repression and bluntness – “While I ignore that we’ve both felt like this before” as well as “So if I had a chance, would you let me know?” and “And if the answer is no, can I change your mind?” are some excellent examples.
ISTJ: All The Right Moves by OneRepublic
Why: Beautiful lyrics – so characteristic of OneRepublic – and a profound message about achievement and self-worth that is especially relevant to our practical realists. This song is a gentle reminder to ISTJs that life (unfortunately) isn’t always “cause and effect.” A powerful build-up makes this song extra memorable.
ESTP: Raise Hell by Dorothy
Why: Fast-paced modern rock that drips with power and revolution. This is the ESTP anthem – you guys just gotta trust me on this one!!
ISTP: Anarchist by YUNGBLUD
Why: Expect a (surprisingly awesome) cockney accent, layered vocals, intense beat, and killer guitar in the background. Chances are that the ISTP reading this already clicked on the title before they read the last sentence; why am I still typing?
ESFJ: Sweet Disposition by The Temper Trap
Why: Building intensity and a fast beat combine with soft, slow vocals and well-timed beat changes. If only for the fitting title, ESFJs have to check this out.
ISFJ: We’re Going to Be Friends by The White Stripes
Why: This is the most gentle, affectionate song about kids’ friendships that any ISFJ in a mellow mood will love. You could slow-dance to this while autumn leaves fall outside.
ESFP: Breaking Free by Night Riots
Why: I actually saw these guys in concert, and I know someone who dated the lead singer! This song for ESFPs is fast and catchy, and it builds the drama with lyrics about love, passion, and freedom.
ISFP: Walking On A Dream by Empire of the Sun
Why: For a dreamy walk with the dreamer of the types, the ISFP. Ethereal sound, quick and light beat, floating vocals, and uplifting lyrics. This is one of the coolest songs on my playlist.
How do you manage an ESTP friend. I swear to god I almost die, have to break up a fight, or save them from pursuing a shitty one night stand 🤦🏽♀️ SOS
You say “manage” like they’re some wild rockstar who shows up late and drunk to the recording studio to meet with me, the fatigued agent-turned-babysitter who’s been dragging them out of crack houses for years and can only drop my head in my hands as they get another public indecency charge.
I like this visual.
hey sorry if this is too long, emo or annoying. I'm an infp falling into the cliche the-unemployed-type trap. i've spent the last 2 years after high school doing nothing (1 tiny internship, tried uni for 2 weeks and hated it) and now i'm back at uni mainly for the entry in my cv (yeh i want to drop out).The stress and unknown is making my fi-si loop af - and whenever i start something new i want to drop it. It's the worst for my mental health and idk what to do bc no careers interest me.
This is a really interesting question. As far as career advice goes… I don’t think it’s a career you need to find; it’s your passion.
A fulfilling career path starts with finding what drives you and letting that knowledge guide your professional decisions. For an INFP, often the root of your actions lies in your desire to create/maintain harmony in your environment (and inside yourself). Any task that involves helping people, being a part of emotional communication, and/or fulfilling a need in general attracts INFPs!
My INFP mom is a doctor. I can’t tell you how many times she’s told me, when I asked for career advice myself, that she didn’t decide that she wanted to be a doctor and then go to med school. What she actually did involved self-discovery: she had to discover that she feels fulfilled when she can help someone tangibly and meaningfully, and then that information guided her toward a job in healthcare — and then from there she was able to fine-tune exactly what she wanted her career to look like.
But the foundation had to be finding what she enjoyed doing in daily life — helping people and solving problems, no matter if it involved friends, family, or strangers.
Let me know if you need more clarification on this! And — if anyone is interested in the story of how my INFP mom realized her path and went from working as a waitress in Hawaii to being an ER doctor, tell me!
hey im an intj too and I was wondering if you ever feel really alone? Like, I'm not sure if it's just me or all intj personalities, but I always feel like either I'm superior to other people, or way way beneath them. I just feel really isolated in that knowing nobody's mind functions like mine. Then again I'm the only intj I've ever met, so maybe it's not just me being an overly-critical asshole??
It’s incredibly common for us INTJs to have this “I’m either above them or below them” complex.
It’s also incredibly f*cked up, and we have to do some serious work to try and dismantle this instinctual worldview.
This stratification-obsessed perspective typically stems from insecurity. If the INTJ doesn’t feel like they belong to their community, we will often adopt this view. Just this year, I moved away to start college, and my first couple months here have been a super fun, mental cage-fight between the “I’m superior” and “I’m inferior” forces that fight for control over me.
It’s a shitty way to see people and downright exhausting. BUT, there are foolproof ways to get out of it…
- Focus on your confidence, your relationships, your strengths, and your purpose.
- Ground yourself in life and let your sense of who you are guide your decisions.
- Deliberately be kind and understanding where you would’ve previously been judgmental.
I’d also like to address the line “nobody’s mind functions like mine.” This is a horrible false idea to have rattling around in your head, because it’s only going to reinforce your fluctuating superiority/inferiority complex, if it’s not the cause of it in the first place.
If you mean your mind is different and special because you’re an INTJ, NO. INTJs are supposedly about 2.1% of the population, which is uncommon, but by no means entirely unique. There are plenty of other people whose minds use the same cognitive functions as you. If you desperately want to find someone who reminds you of yourself, put yourself out there and meet more people! And while you’re looking, try to get to know people with different personalities from yours, who might become good friends and relieve your sense of isolation.
You’re only as isolated as you think you are.
Reblogging for excellent comment ^^^