Could I just say something real quick?
It’s all coming. Whatever you’re starving for, whatever that ache is that stings your bones, it’s coming. The love, the happiness, the adventures, and the creativity that you are seeking, it is all coming for you. Here’s the thing, don’t let your right now get away. The things you find mundane, keep them. Store them in the pocket of your favorite coat like found pennies. They aren’t futile. Do not let them cause you to feel empty and hollow. They are going to be worthwhile. Keep the hunger for what is coming, but please, keep a tight grip on these little ordinary moments that are happening right now, because they – these tiny pieces of this ordinary affair you find yourself in – are the foundation to your extraordinary. And I promise you, if you begin to recognize your right now, you’ll see your extraordinary coming.
— 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒏𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓, hello. 🍁 its been 2 weeks. life has been good so far. i have been learning and growing. i hope to be independent, in the meantime, not self-centred. i still lack in areas i need to improve on eg communicating with people, my self-esteem and mental health. ive yet to grow strong but i will. i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. i believe im still a work in progress. we all are.
weekend study set-up + iced coffee runs before class ✨ ig: @eriranchez
(hi, @productividays is back! just a studyblr life update: i’ve graduated from college and i’ve relocated from Manila to Tokyo, where I am currently working and studying Japanese 🌸
Trying to be more proactive with my language studies by posting more from here on out ✨ よろしくお願いします〜
pick a plant if you’re having a bad day:
🌼 don’t hate yourself for relationships and friendships you lost or sabotaged - accept that you built walls or adopted some coping mechanisms. be gentle with this and acknowledge that this has happened, but you are able to grow into a wiser person and have meaningful relationships in the future because of this. don’t mind-read others and think they hate you - that’s a lie. you can still make genuine friendships, you’re still a loveable, valuable person.
🌺 you will find something else you love, new friendships, new hobbies, new music, new obsessions, new things that give u meaning. when one thing ends another one begins, so don’t dwell on people who aren’t in your life anymore or things you don’t enjoy anymore. those might be in the past, but don’t give up on searching for new things that could be even better.
🌷bad days and bad weeks always end. there are good things ahead. please don’t conclude anything about yourself or your life from a temporary time. it won’t always be like this.
☘️ there is always a chance of success and there is no one path to happiness. you’ve already come so far from where you started and you should take a moment to be proud of yourself. you never know what great things can happen. don’t lose hope 💛
🌸 keep going through tiredness and there will be something beautiful and new that will fill the emptiness you feel right now. document and romanticise your life. you’ve had days where the world is bright and soft and kind and you will have those days again.
🌱take your time. it’s ok to rest. stay in bed, drink water, take plentiful breaks, do nothing but breathe. when you’re ready, pick yourself up and piece things back together. there is no pressure.
🍄 pay attention to influences that make you feel bad and try to remove those from your life and thoughts. sometimes things like too much social media, untidy room, too little sleep, too much time in your room, or spending time with someone who doesn’t appreciate you can wear you down. make sure your environment helps you thrive.
🌻 you’re not invisible or forgotten, even if you feel alone. someone appreciates your smile, someone wanted to speak to you but was too shy, someone remembers you fondly even though you haven’t spoken to them for a while. you’re not insignificant and alone. maybe you can reach out first and you’ll see that you were loved all along. remember, if you’re alone for a long time you will think you’re unloveable, and this is the biggest lie in the world, so try to force yourself to interact with others in a nice and fulfilling way even when you feel scared of embarrassing yourself. people who matter won’t judge you.
🍁 sometimes the hardest, but most worthwhile thing is changing everything you do or think. if you’ve been spiralling, maybe it’s good to assess what you’re doing that is making your situation worse. sometimes your thoughts and actions can be the problem but those can be changed. the first step is accept that your past moulded your current reactions to situations, then make a conscious effort to change every negative thought that you believe in. changing habits and mindsets like perfectionism, self-hatred, procrastination, jumping to conclusions, believing everyone will hurt you is really hard but it can be life-changing. take one step at a time it’s hard to change what you’ve always known but you can do it, and don’t forget there is help out there. I hope happiness will play a big role in your life one day.
So I’m finishing up my Ph.D. and preparing to depart for the real world
(no, just kidding, I’m going to be in school forever, only in a different capacity)and I thought I’d put together a list of some college tips to share with you all. I graduated with my B.A. in 2012, magna cum laude, with 2 majors, 1 honours thesis, 2 on-campus jobs, and 3 music things. Since then, I’ve gone to grad school and also taught six semesters of first-year seminars. Now I’m going on the job market for teaching positions. All of this means that I’ve seen both sides of the college experience, as a student and as an instructor. There are a lot of great & useful college advice posts going around studyblr this time of here, and I wanted to add my own. I hope it’s useful. So here we go, with a “read more” because it’s long (sorry if you’re on mobile):
- find your classrooms ahead of time (profs’ offices too)
- figure out how long it will take you to walk between places
- figure out where your best seat will be & claim it
- say hi to the people next to you, learn their names
- take notes in class
- take advantage of extra credit
- try your best not to fall asleep in class (and if you do fall asleep, apologise to the prof afterwards)
- bring your glasses if you need them, don’t be stubborn about it
- check out the library, wander in the stacks, talk to the librarians
- figure out how & where to print
- buy used books/textbooks, or rent them, but be careful with ebooks (some profs don’t allow them)
- plan breaks into your class schedule, or block everything together, whichever works best for you
- work out the pros & cons of 8am classes and/or night classes
- plan ahead – have a planner, put things in it, do them
- fake deadlines are a thing (write down earlier deadlines, trick yourself into meeting them, bask in satisfaction)
- grades won’t be what they were in high school
- keep in mind GPA values: a 3.5 will see you graduating with honours
- be nice to the departmental administrative staff, thank them for helping you (even with small things)
- office hours versus emailing profs: both will get your questions answered (probably) but if you can go and talk in person, do it
- profs & TAs are people too, they have lives, they have bad days
- if something comes up, talk to your prof, be honest but don’t overshare, just show them you’re trying
- on that note, try
I havent seen anyone talk about this yet so im making a post.
So lets say you’re researching something for a paper (or just for fun) and the research paper you want to read is behind a paywall, or the site makes you create an account first, or makes you pay to download, or limits you to only 5 free articles, or otherwise makes it difficult for you to read what you want.
do not fear! copy the link to the article
go to sci-hub.se (the url is always changing so its best to check out whereisscihub.now.sh to find what the current url is)
slap the article link in there
bam! free access!