MBTI as Significant Other
- Generous, friendly, sympathetic, and affectionate.
- Eager to please their partners and motivated to create a fun, harmonious, and active home.
- Often enjoy family life tremendously and typically prioritize socializing with loved ones above all else.
- Tend to avoid conflict and may have trouble being serious, preferring to move on with their active lives rather than have an uncomfortable discussion.
- They are tuned into the needs of the people around them, but prefer to do something constructive to take care of their loved ones, rather than spend time hashing out difficult issues.
- Supportive of their mates and try to take good care of their families, but can be impulsive as they pursue the pleasures of life.
- May go where the wind blows and neglect to follow up on responsibilities. They are characteristically spontaneous and usually dislike a structured lifestyle.
- ESFPs want a partner who supports them in their lifelong pursuit of fun and excitement.
- An ideal mate for an ESFP is affectionate and appreciative of the ESFP’s generosity and desire to be helpful to others.
- Loyal, patient, and easygoing.
- Eager to help and quickly perceive the needs of their partners and families. Often show affection with simple, practical gestures that make their loved ones feel comfortable and well taken care of.
- Like to maintain harmony and are very reluctant to engage in conflict.
- May have difficulty asserting themselves and struggle with expressing feelings of anger or resentment.
- Ideally, they want to be cooperative and accommodate others, and may find themselves taken advantage of if their partners are not sensitive to their needs.
- ISFPs are tolerant and uncritical, and adapt easily to their surroundings.
- They like to go with the flow and enjoy life from moment to moment.
- An ideal mate for an ISFP takes the time to show spontaneous gestures of affection, and appreciates the ISFP’s kind and helpful nature.
- Fun-loving, pragmatic, hedonistic and flirtatious,
- ESTP partners tend to keep things exciting. They are often pursuing adventure and like a playmate who will come along for the ride.
- ESTPs tend to have little patience for serious emotional exploration, preferring to keep things fun and action-packed.
- They tend to be attentive to their partners’ physical needs, but may neglect the deeper emotional connections.
- Serious discussions about feelings rarely hold much appeal for the thrillseeking ESTP.
- ESTPs are enthusiastic and reasonable problem-solvers.
- However, their orientation toward quick thinking may lead them to try to apply a solution before they fully understand the issues involved in a conflict, especially when complex and difficult emotions are involved.
- ESTPs want a partner that will appreciate their practicality and willingness to get their hands dirty, and allow them plenty of freedom to pursue excitement.
- Dependent, calm, enjoy being useful to their partners as quick and able problem-solvers.
- ISTPs are fun-loving and adventurous, and will often encourage their partners to learn new and exciting physical skills.
- They are good at responding to their partners’ immediate physical needs, but may be less adept at dealing with emotions.
- ISTPs are natural troubleshooters, but look for logical, practical solutions to problems; more complex personal issues may leave them stumped.
- Often private, the ISTP tends to keep their feelings and reactions to themselves.
- For the ISTP, this is not about withholding: they simply prefer to move on to the next activity rather than dwell on their emotional experience.
- ISTPs understand the temporary nature of their emotions, and rarely find them an interesting topic of conversation.
- ISTPs are unlikely to offer flowery speeches or romantic overtures, and are more likely to show affection by being of practical service to their partners.
- They want their partners to appreciate their skills in getting things done, and to allow them plenty of freedom to do their own thing.
- Supportive, nurturing, and reliable.
- Concern themselves with providing practical support to their partners and living up to traditional standards in a relationship.
- They adhere strictly to their own moral code, and want a partner who agrees with them on issues of right and wrong, should and should not.
- Conscientiousness is important to the ESFJ, and when they follow through responsibly on their promises, they expect the same from others.
- ESFJs like an organized life and want their partners to participate in a structured, scheduled lifestyle.
- ESFJs dislike conflict and are motivated to resolve it quickly.
- They prefer stable, harmonious relationships and like a partner who is able to be loving and committed, even when the ESFJ has strong emotional reactions.
- ESFJs appreciate a partner who notices their efforts to provide for their families, and commends them on a job well done.
- Generous, accomodating, and loyal.
- Dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously.
- They look for ways to provide and to assist, and are attentive to the details of the people around them.
- ISFJs are motivated to help, and may put their partner’s needs ahead of their own.
- They typically have a clear idea of what a partner “should” do, but are not likely to be outwardly demanding when it comes to their own needs.
- They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict.
- ISFJs want a relationship that allows them to be helpful and dutiful in their devotion to loved ones.
- They appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognizes their dedication and ability to nurture others.
- Dependable, responsible, and opinionated.
- Appreciate routine and family traditions, and want stability and security in their home life.
- They tend to have very structured lives and organized homes.
- ESTJs can be domineering, and often want to dictate schedules and procedures for the people around them.
- Decisive and strong-willed, they are sometimes impatient with their partners’ feelings.
- They may need to work on relaxing control and opening the lines of communication.
- ESTJs value a partner who appreciates their responsibility and productivity, and one who notices the ESTJ’s tangible contributions to the relationship.
- Loyal and reliable.
- Value stability, tend to appreciate relationships that they can count on over the long term.
- They keep their promises and expect others to do the same.
- ISTJs are resoundingly logical and can be stubborn once they’ve decided on the best course of action.
- They usually like things done their way.
- Often the “proper” course of action is self-evident to the ISTJ, who may have little patience with unconventional approaches.
- ISTJs tend to work hard to ensure that their families are provided for and that they are living up to their own expectations of what a good partner should be.
- They are typically most satisfed with a partner who can recognize and appreciate the hard work they put in to contribute to the household.
- Commanding and challenging partner.
- Have high expectations for themselves and for their partners, and want a mate who will put in the time and effort necessary to create a successful life together.
- Prefer to have their homes and lives structured and organized, and may be domineering in imposing this structure on others.
- They tend to have a clear idea of how things should be done, and may feel that others should follow.
- ENTJs are enthusiastic and analytical problem-solvers, and will approach conflict head-on.
- They are unemotional in sorting out issues, and weigh perspectives with a logical detachment.
- They may neglect to attend to their partner’s feelings, preferring to arrive at conclusions with objective logic.
- They can also have trouble listening patiently, because of their strong desire to problem-solve.
- ENTJs are typically ambitious and may spend a lot of time at work or otherwise pursuing career success.
- They often need a partner who is independent and supportive of their goals. ENTJs value a partner who respects and appreciates their competence, intelligence, and effectiveness.
- Loyal but independent.
- Can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements.
- Often have clear ideas about what makes for a solid relationship and are unwavering in their pursuit of this ideal.
- INTJs often have a passion for self-improvement and are encouraging of their partners’ goals and intellectual pursuits.
- They do not usually see the need for frivolous affection or romance, feeling that their devotion should be evident.
- They are more focused on serving their partners with hard work and resourceful problem-solving than they are on showering them with attention.
- INTJs’ partners often find them difficult to read, and indeed they do not show emotion easily; they find the process of discussing emotions much too messy and disorganized.
- They enjoy solving difficult problems, but are often out of their depth when it comes to illogical, unpredictable personal issues.
- INTJs value a partner that allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their efficacy, insight, and ability to offer creative solutions to problems.
- Inventive, enthusiastic, and spontaneous.
- Are often exciting partners, full of ideas for new things to explore together.
- ENTPs like to encourage their mates to pursue their ambitions.
- They may be competitive or even argumentative; they enjoy a good debate for its own sake.
- They typically need a partner who is emotionally resilient and doesn’t take offense at their intellectual challenges.
- ENTPs can be unreliable as they follow their inspiration, wherever it may lead. They have little interest in order or routine, and may neglect mundane household chores as they pursue more stimulating activities.
- ENTPs prize their ability to understand others and communicate effectively, and have an ongoing interest in improving themselves and their relationships.
- They want to know how their partners’ minds work, and are creative in coming up with solutions to interpersonal problems.
- The ideal mate for an ENTP appreciates their ingenuity, competence, and perceptiveness, and supports them in their ever-changing interests, schemes, and social pursuits.
- Independent and clever partners.
- They enjoy engaging intellectually and want an intelligent partner who can match their ability to think critically.
- INTPs have little appetite for the mundane aspects of life, and may disregard the usual rituals of a relationship.
- They are rarely interested in tradition, preferring instead to design a lifestyle that makes sense for the parties involved—even if it looks highly unconventional to other people.
- They are tolerant of individual preferences but will rarely do something because they are told they “should.”
- INTPs tend to analyze the theory behind everything, and may interpret human interactions with the detached logic of a psychological researcher.
- They may find others difficult to deal with when they cannot understand the logic behind their behavior.
- When things get too emotional, they may retreat to their own world of thoughts and ideas.
- INTPs want plenty of space in a relationship to explore their own thoughts, ideas, and interests.
- They value a partner that appreciates their ingenuity and problem-solving ability, and one that understands their need for autonomy.
- Helpful and enthusiastically supportive.
- They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.
- ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential.
- They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.
- ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs.
- Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it.
- ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt.
- However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.
- The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ’s feelings and values.
- Supportive and guided by a sense of integrity.
- The INFJ’s interest in human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner’s dreams, aspirations, and achievements.
- INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve conflicts.
- They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to create a meeting of the minds.
- Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along with an idea that does not feel authentic to them.
- When it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise.
- INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates.
- INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.
- Warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged.
- Connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences.
- They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.
- ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back.
- They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular.
- On the rare occasion that they object to a mate’s behavior, it’s likely to be because their values have been violated.
- Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings.
- They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion.
- ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads.
- They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.
- ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads.
- They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need.
- The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP’s unique qualities openly and often.
- Nurturing, empathic, and loyal.
- Tend to select their friends and partners carefully, looking for a strong bond and congruent values.
- They are self-aware and often spiritual.
- INFPs tend to be open-minded and accepting of another’s behavior and preferences, so long as their core values are not violated.
- They support their partners’ individuality, and encourage them to explore their interests and ideas.
- INFPs look for ways to compromise and accommodate other people, and often have creative solutions to interpersonal problems.
- They can be very sensitive, but often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.
- Close and harmonious relationships are important to INFPs, although they also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect.
- They often want plenty of freedom to express themselves and pursue greater self-awareness.
- They value a partner who is committed and loving, yet provides them with the support they need to independently explore the mysteries of life.